I sent notecards out to my 36 SL “Friends” whose names begin with “A” or “B” in January. I requested an hour to spend with my “Friend.” 3 people IM’d that it was a cool project. 3 more IM’d that they’d like to meetup. And by the time January was over, I’d only actually seen one of them, Ama Ree, on January 1.
Undaunted, here is Mining My Friends List – Chapter II – February. This month I’m sending out to my 29 friends whose names begin with “C” or “D”. Here’s hoping I can see more of my C-D friends than the 3% of my A-B friends I managed in January.
Carabella “Cara” Babii
Cas (Casondrenee Whybrow)
Charlie (Agnes Sharple)
Cheyenne (Monerda Skute)
Cinnabar (Nightingale Xuanzang)
Cole Marie Soleil
Crazy Girl (Semra Styles)
Although I just included you as 1 of 29 recipients from the “C-D” part of my SL friends list, I mean this notecard to be anything but impersonal. Despite the slightly spammy distribution, I’m saying Hello! to YOU, wishing YOU Happy Valentine’s Day, and hoping that YOU AND I can get together sometime in February.
I’ve been thinking about my “Friends List.” Or my Friends Lists. My 1,003 Facebook “friends,” my 289 SL “friends” and so on. What is a “friend” anyway? IRL you might get someone’s card at a conference, and on arriving home, not quite remember who they are. In oldschool RL, people like your plumber might have been in your “Rolodex.” That didn’t necessarily mean they were your “friend,” but they were a good “contact” to have. In cyberspace today, Facebook calls them “Friends,” LinkedIn calls them “Connections,” and Google+ calls them simply “People.”
As a pretty social place, perhaps it’s appropriate that SL calls them “Friends.” Even so, like that RL stack of business cards from the conference, adjacent names in your SL Friends list might represent good friends, acquaintances, and who-were-they-again? It’s no shame: you do an event, have a conversation, add a “friend,” and then time goes by. Sometimes we get busy. Sometimes we forget.
Still, I’ve been staring at my SL Friends List recently, wondering who everyone is, both in the metaphysical, and individual senses, and thinking that a friends list should mean more. That it should at least mean that it’s someone you spend an hour a year with! So, I’ve decided to do just that. I’m reaching out to all my “A-B” friends in January, “C-D” friends in February, “E-F” friends in March… and finishing up with all my “W-X-Y-Z” friends in December 2015.
If you’re interested, and if your schedule permits, I’d like to spend an hour with You anytime in February 2015. We could have coffee, or a beer. We could go shopping, or dancing. We could look at art, or make some. Whatever you like.
If you’re interested, drop me an IM or Notecard in-world, or an email to firstname.lastname@example.org, with a few days / times that work for you.
Happy Valentines Friend!
Here’s to a wonderful 2015!
Hope to see you in February!
Photo: * B&W 1 by Elizabeth Albert